Hi,
I wonder if many woman are familiar or interested in Female Led Relationships, particularly those in thee more mature age group. Is a relationship based on the Females wants and desires something more common to us who have lived in role reversed households?

Although many men and Women find female control and power the best and most fuffilling relationship, it is deeply based on sharing, trust and respect for both partners.

I have found my previous relationship with the Woman as the final decisin maker as well as the Queen of the home, to be very fuffilling and exciting on so many levels, yet I am finding many woman are not aware of such possibilities. Yes, we all know the woman is the boss in most families. It's just not expressed so overtly. In a. FLR, both partners are proud of the arrangment.

Many men have a great love and respect for woman that goes beyond the mainstream. I love serving and  worshiping the right woman and expect there are more woman who understand and appreciate this than they may think. Please comment if you have any advice or questions.  There may be other men and women perfect matches, but neither aware of this fantastic, loving and exciting lifestyle.
Hi, I've just joined the site.

I have been interested in FLR for some time now, but all the information I can find is US based. I'd really like to be in an FLR with a nice man in Britain; I don't want a slave and I'm not really into BDSM, sissification etc., but I would like to be pampered, wined and dined, taken care of etc. by a guy who is happy to let me have the final say.

Are there any such guys on this site or are they all traditional macho men who need to bully and dominate women? Do members know of any sites specifically for FLR relationships (and I do mean relationships, not dominatrices looking for their next slave!)
PrincessWendyj wrote: Hi, I've just joined the site.

I have been interested in FLR for some time now, but all the information I can find is US based. I'd really like to be in an FLR with a nice man in Britain; I don't want a slave and I'm not really into BDSM, sissification etc., but I would like to be pampered, wined and dined, taken care of etc. by a guy who is happy to let me have the final say.

Are there any such guys on this site or are they all traditional macho men who need to bully and dominate women? Do members know of any sites specifically for FLR relationships (and I do mean relationships, not dominatrices looking for their next slave!)



Respectfully, 

I'm not in the least offended by what you've said and I wish you sincere luck in your search.  However, as a Dominant woman (albeit, not a heterosexual one) I feel the need to comment on your last sentence.  

My relationship is real.  I have never been interested in having a "slave" or someone to bully.  As a BDSM educator with several decades of both teaching and 24/7 real life experience, I have found that the majority of people I meet who also live The Life have very meaningful and grounded relationships that involve a commitment to communication, honesty, hard work and respect.  As a matter of fact, of the relationships I am witness to, the BDSM oriented ones tend to have better communication and more openness than the non-BDSM variety because these concepts are an absolute and non-negotiable  requirement for such commitments.  Indeed, they are the foundation upon which BDSM is built.  

There are people who misuse or mistake the intent of BDSM as well as those who throw words around as if they understood the meaning of same.  There are people who like to stomp about declaring themselves to be Master This or Mistress That, wearing their kink on their sleeves (as if sexual exploration were the entirety of BDSM) without having engaged in the continual, unflinching and deeply humbling self-inventory it takes to be a Dominant person worthy of the trust of others.  Unfortunately, these people reflect badly on The Life.  There are such people in any and every group and sub-culture of humanity, I believe. 

There is a vast difference between kink and BDSM.  Everyone has a kink to them somewhere.  Many people are ashamed of theirs, which is, in the scheme of things, really unnecessary and rather sad as it occurs naturally and without invitation.  Exploring ones kink is not the same as the practice of BDSM.  Those dominatrixes you know of who merely want a slave to toy with are exploring their own personal kink.  Those of us who put love and thought and respect into every interaction we have with the people who trust us with their submission are living our lives, living The Life, and having very real relationships. I want to own a slave with the same passion that I want to be set on fire; in other words - not at all.  I create relationships with submissives; people whose trust I have earned by being My most authentic self; by offering support, honesty, mentoring and friendship where it is asked for or needed; and by being as genuine as I can be - a thing one achieves by being accountable for every word and every action one generates.  When a person who is being treated like a slave calls a Dom/me by the title of "Master" or "Mistress" it is because the Dominant has demanded that they do so as if it were his or her right.  When a submissive person calls Me "Miss" it is because I have earned their trust and, thus, been accorded a privilege.  I am called "Miss" because I demand nothing.

Being Dominant is like being a lady.  If you have to tell someone you are, then you aren't.

Best wishes.... 
I'm a man with a strong interest in Female Led Relationships and hope to meet a lady with similar interests.

Some men are attracted to the idea of a woman being the boss in a relationship,taking the lead, giving directions, making decisions. For some, it can be a very fulfilling thing for a man to be more focused on pleasing and pampering the woman in his life and making her happy. I've explored around on the net and find there is a surprising number of couples who are happy with this type of relationship.

In answer to Princess Wendy's post here, there are indeed non-macho types like me whose respect for women goes beyond the mainstream. I'd be very glad to hear from anyone who has a sincere interest in FLR

WSY777
Just lately I've chatted online with a several people, men and women both, who have this type of relationship and are very happy with it. All said they'd never go back to a conventional relationship.
This is so interesting to hear.
I'm actively and seriously searching for a submissive with slave tendencies for a Female Led Relationship. I've led in a Female Led Relationship with a wonderful man for 17 years in the past where I was very happy so I want to find a Female Led Relationship again. Therefore, I am hoping that lightning will strike twice and My future mate will find Me...if I don't find him first...
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-DF
Probably not the right place to be looking for this kind of relationship I agree but if I'm honest I adore a woman who likes to be in charge.

Sorry, well I'm not actually lol, but it's the way I am and always have been. What's wrong with adoring and worshiping your partner?
GOOD LORD.....what next !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Now that is SCAREY.  :roll:
Hi Pete, it's a shame some people think it's funny to mock others. Nothing wrong with what you are looking for. Every relationship is different and whatever makes two people happy is fine and as long as no one is getting hurt it is no-one else business. Good luck.
Don't the mysterious components of relationships sort themselves out? There is far too much to consider. (well beyond our ability to comprehend let alone define)
Myself,,, I'll not do the bidding of anyone who ,,when it all goes to hell,,, isn't around to share the pain I'm obliged to endure. So,, I'll remain in charge of myself and allow my partner all the latitude she needs to be happy. If that's insufficient,,,,Move along lady! Don't waste our time!

bp
Could not have said it better Gwynnie,  :D
Well thank you ladies! X
So Peter, stand by your bed lol

You'd be perfectly happy me telling you to do all the housework washing and ironing?
Whilst I put my feet up? 
gwynnie wrote: Hi Pete, it's a shame some people think it's funny to mock others. Nothing wrong with what you are looking for. Every relationship is different and whatever makes two people happy is fine and as long as no one is getting hurt it is no-one else business. Good luck.


Thanks gwynnie - could you contact the person who started this thread and possibly make a FLR forum/category for them on our site - or let me know if I need to do it for you as you are going off for a few days.

-DF