Gosh, I naively believed that it would be easier to parent my kids once they were grown but it has proved even more challenging! Words of hope and comfort and wisdom are appreciated...also any stories of how you got through the "terrible twenties".
personally I learned to let go? You should not have to parent adults (unless they have mental disabilities), even then try to parent them in as much of an age appropriate way as possible.
My big thing in life is personal responsibility- they as adults should be responsible for their choices and actions, just as I am with mine. You cannot control how someone else behaves, just how you react to it? If they come to mom with problems, listen, give objective advice if you wish and then it is down to them?