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In the exciting world of online dating, crafting the first message that not only gets noticed but also receives a response is a challenge. Few people want to start with a cliché message that merely states they find the profile attractive and would like to know more. Such interchangeable messages are unfortunately common and often get lost in the flood of notifications.
To truly stand out and spark the interest of the other person, more creativity and effort are required. Although it takes more time than sending standard messages, the higher chances of success justify this effort. With a few simple tips, the whole process becomes much easier.
1. Launch with an Intriguing Start!
Begin with an inviting introduction that piques curiosity! A touch of humor or a cheeky allusion can work wonders. Pick up on something special from your potential partner's profile, such as their listed interests or profession.
2. Be personal, but respectful!
It's important to address the recipient's personality in your message. Take the time to read the profile carefully – perhaps even multiple times. Your counterpart should feel that they are being addressed individually. Be careful not to become too intimate; respect the other person's personal space. Questions are a good way to keep the conversation going. An example would be: "Murder is my hobby too – but only in crime novels! Who's your favorite author?"
3. Connect with their interests!
Take a close look at the recipient's profile and refer to the interests listed there. If your counterpart is a music lover, for example, you could ask: "I saw that you enjoy attending concerts! What was your most unforgettable experience?" Such connections immediately create a common ground and show genuine interest.
4. Create Curiosity!
Avoid long monologues about yourself or boring the other person with detailed information about your preferences. Instead, short and concise messages are more effective as they leave room for speculation and dreams. A travel-loving lady could say: "I've already taken many beautiful trips, but to make my dream trip to my favorite island a reality, I still need the perfect companion."
5. Use humor as a connecting element!
Dryness doesn't attract anyone! Honesty is important, but a little wit and charm make your message unforgettable. Formulate your statements with a wink – "I'm a middle-aged civil servant and dog lover" quickly becomes "a slightly graying public servant in his prime with a four-legged friend by his side."
6. Politeness counts!
Originality should never be confused with flippancy – after all, we're not teenagers anymore. Too many Anglicisms or "cool" terms can quickly give the impression that the sender is either quite immature or desperately trying to appear young. Both are unattractive and likely to result in the message going unanswered. Politeness, on the other hand, always makes a good impression. A friendly salutation and a warm closing should be a matter of course. Also, take the time to proofread your message for spelling errors before sending, even if you're writing from your phone.
7. Be authentic!
Always be authentic! Don't try to be someone you're not; show your true self and share genuine interests and experiences. This increases the likelihood of finding someone who truly appreciates you and with whom you can build a real connection.
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Editor, 01/02/2025
